Getting divorced is one of the least thing people want to have in a marriage life unless you didn't married for love. There are different reasons people end up divorce. Sometimes the reasons can be noticed easily, but sometimes the real cause of divorce doesn't flow on the surface of water.
Living together before marriage is one of the real causes people usually don't think about when they getting divorce. They tend to look for other factors such as lack of intimacy, affair, sexless...etc.
In nowadays, young people are more likely to live together before getting married, because they believe that living together before marrying will give each other a chance to know and see if they can get alone well. This belief is well spread and has a strong influence to young people. However, study has proved this belief doesn't back up the divorce rate.
Why living together can be the cause of divorce? Couples who have been living together for a long time are already living in a potential "marriage" life. They got almost everything they will get from a marriage. What else will make them take that piece of paper seriously?
My friend John and Kate lived together for 3 years before they got married. When they got married they didn't feel like they were newly weds. They didn't have that excitement for their marriage and a new start of their life. To them, it's like nothing was different except they had more responsibilities to carry on. They got divorced after a year and half. They were both heartbroken, because they never thought their marriage would end up divorce. Kate went to a counselor after divorce, the counselor told her that one of the causes were they had been living together for a long time and suggested not to do so with her next partner.
Kate took that advice and did so with her second husband. They had been known each other for about two years but started to live together only a month before their wedding. They are still married and living happily. I couldn't explain it further than what I did in this article, but the statistics have already proved living together before marriage can be the cause of divorce.
I didn't mean people should not to know each other well before getting married. You have to think about it carefully. Don't move together because everyone else is doing so. Another thing for young people to move together soon they become couple is sex. Sex is great but it shouldn't be the only reason to move together. You can still have sex without living together. Honestly, once a while staying over night at each others' place can make sex even greater.
Anyway, nothing is definite. Living together before marriage just has the potential to be the cause of divorce. You still can choose to move together, but if you do it after engaged or will marry soon after you will have bigger chances to prevent divorce.
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