As we continue on the journey of moving past your divorce, there will be times when you'll be uncomfortable with your new single life. These are times when you need to reflect back on your journey and take a look at how far you've come since your divorce papers were notarized.
Moving beyond your divorce isn't all lollipops and sunshine. It can be a struggle to get into a new routine, and emotions are still on a rollercoaster.
It isn't that the new life is bad; it's just different.
We get so caught up in our day to day living that sometimes we lose perspective of what our life used to be like. It is a good and healthy thing to reflect back every now and then.
A couple of years ago I was in San Francisco at Fisherman's Wharf and was going to take the trolley back to my hotel on Nob Hill. The line for the trolley was over a one hour wait. I decided to walk up to Lombard Street to catch the trolley when people got off to walk the winding road. The walk to Lombard is only a few blocks, but it is a VERY steep walk...and all uphill.
I remember the struggle I had walking up the hill, and I'm a runner! I found myself stopping every now and then to catch my breath. When I got to Lombard Street I turned around to see where I had come from and was in awe of the majestic view of the San Francisco Bay with the clear blue skies awaiting me.
Looking back down the hill I couldn't believe how steep it was, and was amazed, that although my ascent was difficult how far I had actually walked. I felt a huge sense of accomplishment and was grateful for the reward of the amazing view of the city that was my reward.
I couldn't help but think that this was so much like my journey moving from my divorce, into a new life. I struggled with it step by step, uphill for a while, adjusting to my new life. Occasionally I took rest with my friends who gave me comfort and assurance that my journey was worthwhile.
Then that day came when I reached the point where I realized that I was comfortable with my new single life...I was in awe and a felt a huge sense of accomplishment.
I occasionally think back to my early days (post-divorce) and was amazed at how far I've journeyed. Because of my struggles I have a deep appreciation for the woman that I've become. I also have a deep sense of gratitude to those who have helped me along my journey. Today I LIVE my life, and love it!
Please comment and share with me where you are at on your journey. I would love to hear from you.
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About the Author
Debbi Dickinson coaches divorced women to move past their divorce and create a new life for themselves mixing spiritual strategy with time tested proven tools. Debbi invites you to take advantage a Free 5-Day Video Guide that outlines some of these tools. http://www.steppingintojoy.com/
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