5 Ways to Make Divorce Easier on Kids

As parents go through the process of divorce, it is often the children who suffer the most. They are the ones that see the fighting and instability before the divorce, and go through the toughest transition after the divorce when moving between two households on a weekly or monthly basis. Given how difficult this can be for a young child, you must do everything you can as parents to make sure that their transition goes as smoothly as possible.

Here we will explore 5 simple ways that you can make the divorce easier for your child to handle:

Put it in perspective -- Your child may feel alone and uncomfortable with his or her parents being divorced. If you point out a couple of families that have gone through divorce, even celebrities that they may know, they are more likely to empathize with their situation.
Maintain communication with your ex -- the worst thing that you can do after a divorce is stop talking to your ex-spouse. You both have a responsibility to your child to work together on important issues as maturely as possible. Don't in any circumstance give messages to your child to deliver when they visit the other parent. This is not their job and this signifies a severe lack of communication that is necessary when you have children. If you don't want talk on the phone, the least you can do is exchange e-mails.
Keep the rules consistent -- this naturally follows the communication issue, and it's important that both parents try to run their households similarly when the child is present. It is much easier for a kid to go between houses if they follow the same routine, so discuss ground rules with your ex-husband or wife.
Don't exclude family members on either side -- kids have different relationships with parents, grandparents, aunts and uncles, so it's best to make sure they still spend time with all family members. They may want to talk about the divorce with someone besides mom and dad, and any type of communication is good for them to talk through their issues and fears.
Remove all jealousy -- after a divorce there are several things that could make a parent jealous. Maybe it's your child showing preference towards your ex, or the fact that they have a new boyfriend/girlfriend. You may want to interrogate your child to find out details when they were visiting the other parent. In almost every case, exhibiting this jealousy is a bad idea, particularly if you do it in front of your kid. Respect your child's privacy as well as their feelings, and let them know that they can talk to you about anything - but do not press them in any way.

Divorces can be difficult for everyone involved, but if you communicate well and devise a strategy for moving forward you can lessen the traumatic impact on your kids. It's not always easy and there will surely be problems to handle along the way, but as parents it is your obligation.

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