There is no two ways about it. No matter how old a child is when the parents get divorced, it is going to be extremely difficult for them to understand why this has happened and how to cope with it. It is common knowledge that children who grow up in a dual parent home tend to be much more secure and stable because they have received the love and support of the father and mother as a single family unit. The biggest issue is always how the parents "behave" and cooperate with one another once they no longer live together.
There are numerous things that divorced parents can do in order to ensure the child's security and stability while they are growing up and maturing. For instant, they can still share the joys of parenthood and the happiness that the child brings them even though the parents are no longer living together. Another key issue is that the parents need to set all of their differences to the side as well as any negative feelings that they may be harboring for each other whenever they are with the child.
Steps you can take to ensure the child's security and stability
To ensure that your child will have good emotional health and well-being as well as feeling secure and being stable, you should consider the following steps:
Always be honest and open when you are talking to the child - there are going to be a lot of questions. You need to answer every one of these questions, regardless of how insignificant or trite they may be.
Be prepared to deal with behavior, emotion, and negative feelings - it is natural for the child to confused, hurt, and sad about the situation. Your child will need time to mourn the loss of the parent and to adjust to this. Be sensitive and never belittle the child or their feelings regarding the situation.
Both parents need to be cooperative with one another - there is a greater possibility of maintaining the child's security and stability if you are always cooperative with one another. The bottom line is that you always need to work together no matter how difficult this may be where the child's welfare is concerned.
If you're going to argue, don't do it when the child is present - although this is a normal element of divorce, you have to make every attempt to keep it away from the child. When the child is present, you want to remain cordial with one another despite any disagreements that may exist.
Help to create your child's stability - It is important to allow the "ex" to maintain close contact with your child and strive to achieve normalcy whenever possible. You want to avoid making a very common mistake - pampering or spoiling the child so that they favor you over the ex. When everything is changing around that child, the last thing you need to do for them is that the two of remain cordial with one another and keep that one thing the same as it always used to be before the marriage fell apart.
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