The custody of the children - don't lose your children in Divorce

Before you begin reading, we will discuss what this article does not address. Not to address any legal questions or provide legal advice or discuss strategies to get what you want in a divorce. For these tips, you are better to consult a lawyer. This article focuses rather on the relational aspects of custody of children, the importance of not losing your relationship with your children and the dangers of losing that your children are following a divorce.

Relations are an important part of our lives. Relationships begin when we are born, good or bad and continue through from childhood to adulthood. Good relations-building our relationships with others, with ourselves and God, and have a lasting positive effect. In the reverse the bad relations, especially during childhood, tend to have a ripple effect on adult adversely affect our relations with others, with ourselves and with God.

A divorce can bring out the worst in people as a Trade Union is divided into two distinct parts, with each end part less together and then when the union began. For children that their sense of security on the union, this can be devastating. The relations that they trust are now broken, and that they are unsure of how to work the new relationship.

Child relationship. Whatever the agreement, your child will be a new routine. Even if they remain in the same House, the absence of the other parent is new for them. Help your child adjust to the arrangement of the routine and the guard is your responsibility, not of the child. Explain the routine without becoming emotional, blame the other parent or cause any tension during transitions. If you could not obtain with your ex in your marriage, it's time to learn to cooperate for the sake of your child.

Parent-child relationship.Regardless of the child, your time with your children is simply it, your time. Do not waste your time with other distractions or take your time with your children for granted. Spend time to find out what your children are doing and then do with them. Ex tend to divide in fun parent and disciple parent. Resist the temptation to either create a healthy balance between the two. This will go a long way to solidify your relationship.

Child-child relationship. No matter how many times you say to your child that divorce is not their fault, they accuse themselves. Also, they dream of their parents back together one day, not anything fanciful. To help your child adjust, regularly talk about their feelings, the opening at the hearing of the difficult things they need express. This will go far in teaching them to cope with their new routine and minimize the blaming self.

While the lawyers figure on the custody of the children, spend your time working on the relational aspects of this new arrangement. Have positive relationships is contributed to the development of early childhood health and ultimately, your child will be the one that benefits and do not get lost in the shuffle.

Chris Hammond is a registered Mental Health Counselor intern to LifeWorks group with more than 15 years of experience as an Advisor, mentor & the Professor for children, adolescents & adults.

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