Being Thankful During a Breakup

It sounds kind of hard at first, doesn't it? I mean who wants to be grateful during a breakup? How DO you get over a breakup and be appreciative all at the same time? It can be done. It will brighten your day and you deserve a brighter day, right, Dearie?

Here's a few easy steps to take:

1. Be thankful that you're no longer in the relationship. You might be thinking ~ What? My heart is broken. I'm NOT thankful for that. You're crazy! I get it. However, if you think about it for a moment, even if you miss him, there are definitely things about him and maybe some of his annoying habits that you're grateful you won't ever have to endure again. Piles of dirty clothes on the bedroom floor? Never again. Chewing with his mouth open? Huh-uh. Never again. Whatever it happens to be, there ARE some things that you WON'T miss.

2. Be thankful for something you've learned from the relationship. Maybe you've learned that you're a lot stronger than you thought you were. Maybe you've learned that you want to be with someone with certain personality traits that your ex didn't have. Is there a new hobby you'd like to try? If you look back at the relationship as only a waste of your time, then you're missing out on the valuable life lessons it has to offer. If what you take from the end of a relationship helps your future, then you didn't waste a single second of your life.

3. Be thankful for the loving people around you. Typically, we've all got a cheering section during a breakup. Sometimes, it's a few friends that have been with you through thick and thin. Other times, you've got a great family connection with lots of support. If you're lucky, it's both. Take a moment to think of these awesome people and feel gratitude for their presence in your life. After all, isn't life a whole lot more fun with them in it?

4. Be thankful for all the "things" you have around you. This step is pretty cool if you allow it to be unlimited. This means you can be thankful for everything from your comfy warm bed to the new boots you just bought that you love to the pretty little bird outside your window that stops by for just a second. Look around for a minute, find things to be grateful for and improve your mood. It's that simple!

5. Be thankful for your kick-butt self! Yes ~ YOU! Come on...admit it...you're pretty special. You rock. You've got a stunning future ahead of you. You are powerful. We all know you're beautiful. Take a moment to be grateful for YOU. If you get a chance to peek in the mirror, do some mirror work. Gaze into your eyes and tell yourself ~ I love you! What's your best feature? Admire it. Own it. Work it! You, my friend, are splendid!

Traci Vincent, a yoga instructor/blogger, writes about appreciation, "These small pulses of gratitude and thankfulness start my day off in a positive direction. The more I've practiced this throughout the day when I think about it, the more "muscle" I've built in my positive mind. This has thereby increased my reserve of positive emotions and helped me become more resistant to negative emotions."

Having a thankful heart while getting over a breakup is a perfect way to take stock of all the good in your life. Sometimes, it's easy to overlook this good when heartbreak takes over. This Thanksgiving, set aside some time to revel in appreciation!

I am grateful that you have taken the time to read this article. It is truly a blessing to be able to pass on information and knowledge that I have discovered along my journey.

Shine On!

If you like this, you'll love Laura's FREE 5 Steps to Getting Your Groovy Back audio minicourse. In it, you'll learn how to boost your mood throughout the day, how to deal with difficult emotions and remain sassy, why resentment depletes your strength and lots more. Visit http://www.thebreakuplounge.com/ to get it now!

Laura Smith is the founder of The Breakup Lounge, a business devoted to enriching the lives of women dealing with the end of a relationship. Using her own life experiences, she has developed coaching packages offering tools to help women bring their emotions back into control while still allowing them, ideas for establishing self-care rituals, freedom from potential bitterness and resentment and positive expectations for the future. She understands all the different facets of a breakup including the fear, hopelessness, low self-esteem, whirlwind of emotions, stress and blame that can occur. She loves helping women end the heartbreak and get back to their sassy selves!

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Don'ts of a Breakup

I promise that if you do the things on this list, you will someday live to regret it!

Okay. Here's the deal...you miss him. I mean you REALLY miss him. Let me say it one more time - You REALLY SUPER DUPER BEYOND BELIEF MISS HIM! I understand. I've been there too. I've also made a bloody fool of myself in the midst of a breakup. That's why I'm writing now. I want to save YOU from making the same mistakes.

So, without further ado, here is a list of things you shouldn't do during a breakup in no particular order:

1. Drunk dial him at 2 a.m. or sober dial him at 4 p.m. The timing makes no difference. He can see right through this. He knows what you're doing and you'll feel like a fool afterwards. Really...you will. It seems like a gem of an idea after a couple margaritas with the girls. You get home. You're feeling lonely. You imagine him feeling lonely too. He might need to hear your voice to comfort him through this time, right? WRONG!

2. Make up an emergency just to talk to him. So you twisted your ankle playing volleyball. Or maybe you won an award at work. Or maybe your dog vomited. Or maybe you're just pathetically looking for a "good" reason to contact him. Is this information he really needs or wants to know? Honestly? Huh-uh. No, Ma'am. He's no longer in your life so he doesn't get to hear about everything that's happening to you whether it's good, bad or otherwise.

3. Beg. Really? You're fabulous. Why would you beg a moron who doesn't realize your fabulousity to stay with you? Makes no sense. It's beneath you. Don't do it.

4. "Accidentally" run into him. Yeah, we've all done it. You get that surprised look on your face and say, "I didn't know you were going to be here!" Really? You so did. You knew he was going to be here and you planned it like this. The only thing you didn't plan was the look on his face that says, "Oh, no. She's here! Dang!" Not very fun. Not a good time. I know this destroys your vision of him looking at you, suddenly realizing what a dreadful mistake he made and taking you in his arms while simultaneously begging for forgiveness and booking you a trip to Bermuda. I wish I didn't have to crush your dreams this way but...it's highly unlikely that your dream will come true. Instead of planning a run-in, why not spend the time getting a manicure or walking your cat? Both are better uses of your valuable and beautiful self!

5. Answer when HE calls at 2 am. or 4 p.m. for that matter. If you do, you will be providing what I call "breakup assistance" to him. This means that whenever he's feeling a little lonely or reminiscing or regretting his decision - you're always there for him to lean on. Effectively, you are helping him get over you. What? You want to HELP him get over you? Get over it. You deserve better. If he doesn't want all of you, then he doesn't get little bits and pieces here and there when it pleases him. If you give in, it will start happening less and less because...well, you've helped him get over you. Wouldn't you rather help YOU get over HIM? Now that sounds better.

If you follow this list of don'ts -- no matter how tough they seem -- I promise that you'll feel more confident about YOU and the choices YOU make! After all, you are FABULOUS!

Shine On!

If you like this, you'll love Laura's FREE 5 Steps to Getting Your Groovy Back audio minicourse. In it, you'll learn how to boost your mood throughout the day, how to deal with difficult emotions and remain sassy, why resentment depletes your strength and lots more. Visit http://www.thebreakuplounge.com/ to get it now!

Laura Smith is the founder of The Breakup Lounge, a business devoted to enriching the lives of women dealing with the end of a relationship. Using her own life experiences, she has developed coaching packages offering tools to help women bring their emotions back into control while still allowing them, ideas for establishing self-care rituals, freedom from potential bitterness and resentment and positive expectations for the future. She understands all the different facets of a breakup including the fear, hopelessness, low self-esteem, whirlwind of emotions, stress and blame that can occur. She loves helping women end the heartbreak and get back to their sassy selves!

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Support for your life after the breakup

When a marriage or a relationship breaks down, it seems that life will never be the same once more. The truth is, it does. This does not mean, however, that you will be happy again. In fact you will be probably more content and more pleased that you have been a very long time. The key is new support for your life.

Think back a little. During the period where you have been in the relationship that he was going sour, you think that you were in charge of your life during this period? Probably not that you were involved with someone who was having an impact on your life, and he eventually a negative one. If you had decisions to be made that they are dependent on the reactions of the other person. Thus this influence your decisions, if really that you were not in charge because most likely the decisions you made would not have been the same if you had not been with this person.

The transition that you need to do now to be your own person once again will be not any it that easy. Simply because you have become used to respond to and dependent on someone else. In fact also bad that this relationship was you were not alone, and you may feel that way now.

Whenever you make a major change or the great transition in your life you start on a new path in your life. You have two choices, you can do this trip again in fear and insecurity and carrying old baggage with you to your torn relationship. Or you can put the past behind you, learn from your mistakes and be enthusiastic about where life will take you now.

You have emotional wounds that heal. What you must remember, is that once they heal wounds leave scars. Its these scars that can really have a negative effect on your future. You must be prepared to deal with the scars and obtain their so that they will ruin your future. There are several ways that you can do, and the first step in your new journey is learning how to overcome these scars.

So submit your life together is going to be a bit of a chore. Any point you hurting now remember only you can take control of your life and you can do, its how to do that will make your future.

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